You know those days where everything that could possibly go wrong actually does?
You roll out of bed past your alarm. You spill coffee on your work clothes. You can’t find your keys. And when you finally do find your keys, you go to work, only to lock yourself out of the car. You’re sitting in traffic on the way to the airport. You miss your flight. The days where you constantly find yourself thinking, This is not my day.
We all have them.
I just had one a short time ago. Except this time, it wasn’t an endless ring of fiery hoops I had to jump through. I created this obstacle course with one mistake that could have been easily avoidable.
Not even finding a very uplifting post from one of my all-time favorite blogs could cheer me up. And this was while I was listening to music.
I was playing the “should have, could have” game for a good while. But we all know that that doesn’t do squat.
Let Yourself Feel Frustrated
You might say, “So you missed a flight. Big whoop.”
Actually, to some of us, it DOES seem like we were crushed under a boulder, thank you very much.
Sometimes it’s hard to let things go. Sometimes the littlest thing can seem like the end of the world, especially if you’re a sensitive person like yours truly.
It took me a good half hour (or more) of writing in freehand to free myself from the grip of a panic attack. And even then, my old insecurities surfaced. And I let myself feel them.
You could say that the universe was trying to teach me something. And maybe it was. But in those moments of frustration, sometimes the last thing you want to hear is a cheesy line like “Everything happens for a reason.”
Because it’s hard to find a reason when you’re immersed in the moment, riding an unwanted emotional high. Actually the word “hard” is an understatement. It’s beyond difficult. It just sucks. You feel like an ant that’s been crushed under someone’s heel.
It’s going to take time to let your emotions pass through you. Sometimes you’ll feel better after an hour. Other times, you can take the whole day. Let yourself take that time, no matter how long you need.
Once you let the emotion pass through you, you’ll feel a little better. And then maybe you’ll be able to shift your perspective and focus on the good things in your day. You have to feel bad before you begin to feel better. Yes, it sucks, but unfortunately, there’s no beating your way around the bush.
Don’t Add Salt (Or Give Someone Else A Chance To)
Who would want to add salt to that yummy cappuccino?
Sometimes the things people have to say just aren’t what you want to hear. Sure, honesty is great, but there’s a time and a place for it.
That place is not when you’re having a bad day.
You might come to realize the value of what someone is saying after sufficient time has passed.
But rubbing salt in a wound and pointing out the obvious is not the way to support them.
Know who you can trust to give you encouragement and pull you out of your rut. Cut unsupportive people out of your life if you can. If you can’t, try to distance yourself from them or find a way to interact with them in a way that doesn’t open all your old wounds.
Learning how to support yourself is key. Relying on other people to dictate your emotions places the power in their hands. It’s like handing over a puppet and its control to someone else.
I’m not going to say that there’s ONE WAY to learn how to support yourself because I’m not going to pretend to speak for everyone else out there who may have different coping mechanisms. Do what feels right for you.
You aren’t a puppet. You’re human.
Appreciate Little Things
Yes, even if you don’t feel it in the moment.
It feels GOOD to get a text message from your best friend saying that she believes in you.
It feels good to hear the flight attendant say tell you that you’re not the first person in the world to miss your flight once you calm down enough to turn the drama queen switch off.
Appreciate those things. Focus on them. They’ll make your day so much better.
What do YOU do to get over a bad day?