I’ve been through 2 self-help programs. These programs told me I was going to “find my inner beauty in 3 months” and “find the career of my dreams (or something along those lines) in 8 weeks.”
These programs claimed that they would “fix” my life, in a sense.
Have I embraced my inner beauty or gotten my dream career?
Nope. Not yet. I’m in the process of doing those things.
Sure, these programs have helped me somewhat, but they are not a quick fix. They are advertised to make you THINK they are.
This is why I have a problem with them:
You can’t develop confidence in 8 weeks or whatever else these programs advertise. Building confidence takes years. Your career is a constantly evolving journey. Your “purpose” is going to change as you change. You have to put effort into instigating the changes you want to see.
These programs in the self-help industry don’t fix your problems. You do.
I’m going to say that again. We fix our problems.
In response to the New York Times article that discussed young girls and the fact that they use YouTube to validate whether or not they’re physically attractive, one reader left the comment:
“Sounds more like our culture is the issue-again. It says a lot when the standard for approval and acceptance for young girls is physical appearance-but not so much for young boys.”
Guys go through the ringer too, you know.
I don’t think our culture is entirely to blame here; our society is made up of individuals who have the opportunity to help shape our rules. So yes, that twisted society that we always say has to change?
You help make it too.
I’m not trying to make you angry and say that everything that happens in society is your fault. I’m just asking you to consider the fact that you might be engaging in little things that are helping to create a society you don’t want to see.
Gandhi was right. In order to change the world, you have to BE that change.
What sorts of changes do YOU want to see in today’s society?