Destroying The Lie In My Fire: The Truth Behind My Hiatus

Miscellaneous Musings

download“She is mad, but she is magic. There is no lie in her fire.”

-Charles Bukoski

I recently came across this quote as I was reading, and it hit me: this was why my week-long break from writing has turned into a hiatus that has lasted several months.

My writing has turned into a lie.

I started this space as that blank page. I wrote what I wanted to write when I felt like it. I felt that catharsis that I get when I write longhand. And I was excited; the words felt authentic to me, and I was excited to see how having a public space would improve my writing and help me find a tone that was genuine.

As I started reading more about blogging, I became more and more focused on numbers and social media. I focused less on writing content that was genuine and authentic to me and more on content that people would read. And as a result, my tone has changed, which was the very last thing I wanted it to do.

I look back on my posts and cringe; in my mind, I sound like a self-help guru. Sometimes I don’t believe the things I write; I write them because they fit well for my niche, and it feels wrong, uncomfortable.

I am in the process of trying to find a writing style and tone that feels genuine to me. I don’t want to feel like my blog is just like any other blog. I don’t want to feel like I’m just spitting out things that a self-help guru would say when I don’t really believe them. I don’t want this blog to feel like a self-constricting glass box anymore.

I want to feel like there’s no lie in the fire that I have to offer the world.

And that will take time.

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From The Drafts: Volume 1

The Drafts

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A few of my favorite bloggers have started doing something on their blogs where they share bits and pieces of their drafts on their blogs. It’s an interesting way to see what they think about. I’ve had lists of blog post ideas, drafts that are half-written sitting in my computer. Seeing that, I thought it would be a great series to start on my own little internet space.

 

What A Celebrity Says

We take what a celebrity says so seriously that sometimes it’s laughable. We pick apart everything they do, everything they say. I don’t know about you, but I don’t think I could survive being picked apart under a microscope. Sometimes things just get blown way out of proportion.

Everyone will get criticism, regardless of whether or not you have a million Twitter followers or not. Which is why the criticism following Emma Watson’s He For She speech bothered me.

She stood up for something, something she believed in. There was an outpouring of support from people, but there were also critics, just like anything in your life. The speech was too narrow, too broad, too something.

I don’t think Emma Watson spent the weeks leading up to her big speech picking apart every clause, trying to phrase everything so that as many people as possible would agree with her. Okay, maybe she did, but I can’t say for sure. I think she was trying to galvanize support and get her point across. Judging by the 1.1 million #HeForShe tweets, she accomplished that, wouldn’t you say?

Sometimes we take what celebrities say like it’s blood on the Rosetta Stone. Rather than being so quick to say, “(Fill-in-the-role-model-celebrity) supports this cause and because they do, I should too,” we should take the time to form our own opinions. The media isn’t always the most reliable source of information.

 

Blogging Burnout

Sometimes blogging is hard. Scheduling tweets, learning to code, taking pictures (or finding images), and you have to think of blog posts? Can we just go back to the days when my biggest worry was what show to watch next on Netflix? Sometimes the last thing I want to do is write.

I’ve always struggled with maintaining the balance between being authentic and maintaining a sense of privacy. I don’t want to spill my guts all over the internet (because I don’t want to turn this into an online diary) but I do want to be authentic. Striking that balance has always been a challenge. And sometimes I just get burned out. Those times when the thing you love the most turns into a chore. Yeah, those. Not a fan.

 

On Being The Odd One Out

I have never been one to follow the crowd. And I have always gotten flack for it. If I get into the musicians that are dominating the Top 40, I will get into the SUPER late. I am usually on the receiving end of the eye roll. You know the “Babe, I already knew that, and the way you’re getting into this just now is so cute,” kind of eye roll. I am the kind of girl who uses things until they can’t be used anymore (hello earphones that only work on one side).

You Are Going To Be A Bundle of Contradictions, And That’s Okay

Culture & Society, Learning To Love Yourself, Miscellaneous Musings, Re-framing Your Thinking

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“You’re too sensitive.”

“Don’t be so dramatic.”

“Just get over it.”

 

Sound familiar?

 

I think if we all were paid a dollar when someone said those things to us, we’d be filthy rich by now. Kids and adults can be cruel.

Okay. You might not think that those things are cruel, but even the smallest things can destroy your confidence, especially if you’re a hypersensitive person like me. I don’t care if you’re Jennifer Lawrence or your neighbor down the street. Everyone goes through those moments when their confidence is ground in the dirt.

And in those moments, it’s easy to look to the person you idolize. Yes, you know who I’m talking about. Those people whose Twitter accounts you stalk, whose magazine covers you buy the second they hit the newsstands. The ones you want to be.

Sure, they may look like they have everything, but that doesn’t make them immune to pain. Despite their “perfect” image (thank you very much every news outlet ever), the truth is that they’re far from perfect.

 

 

 

See? Case in point.

 

Social media has allowed us to filter our lives so much that it’s very easy to think that we are the only ones in the world who suck at life. We have become so gosh darn obsessed with the number of likes, tweets, and followers that we judge our value based on those superficial numbers.

 

You don’t have to be Taylor Swift, Emma Watson, or Selena Gomez to say something in today’s world that you’ll get flack for. It doesn’t matter if you’re the best singer in the world since sliced bread: Anything you do or say will be picked apart. You can’t please everyone. If you try to please everyone, you’ll end up becoming a doormat. And becoming a doormat is the easiest way to lose your sanity.

 

The only thing you can do is to try to please yourself. Just because you’re a little dramatic doesn’t mean that you have to put duct tape over your mouth every time you come across the person who called you a drama queen.

 

So what if you don’t think that One Direction is the best band to hit the radio waves since The Beatles? You don’t have to bend over backwards to memorize their names and listen to all their albums in one day just because you want to appease your friends who happen to spend their hard-earned money on concert tickets. You don’t have to justify your decisions or tastes to anyone.

 

You’re still young. We will always be students of life. You can believe multiple things. Your tastes will change and grow with you. You can be a drama queen and still be a mellow, relaxed person. You can like the Beatles, Patti Smith, Ed Sheeran, Taylor Swift & Demi Lovato all at the same time for different reasons, no matter what anyone tells you. You don’t need permission from anyone.

 

Finding what you like and what you believe is a process. Believing in yourself is not an easy, straightforward thing. You will always be a bundle of contradictions, there’s no way around it.

 

I’m going to try my hardest not to pull a Louise Hay on you, not because I have my doubts about the self-help industry, but because when you’re young, it’s really hard to believe that your flaws make you interesting, when all they seem to do is help you dig your own grave. Yes, your favorite celeb can help, but no matter how many times you listen to their songs on repeat, you’re the one who has to believe that your quirks make you who you are. And it can be really hard to turn Negative Nancy’s voice off.

But who else but you thinks the way you think, likes what you like, and does what you do? All of the stuff (good and bad) that you’ve been through has made you who you are. You might not be able to just shake it off (thank you, Taylor Swift for getting that song stuck in my head). You might let things change you, but that doesn’t mean that you’re any weaker than the next person. You can make the choice to use the obstacles and changes you go through as fuel. Or you can let them remain walls.

And we know what happens with walls.

 

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It’s a lot better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are, anyway. I’ve tried being something I wasn’t; it was by far one of the most painful things I have ever done. It was a lot of lying. A lot of crying. A lot of pulling my hair out. A lot of filtering. A lot of hiding.

It took me more than ten years to realize this, but if you just put yourself out there, and KEEP doing it, the right audience will find you.

When you shed your mask, share your story, and be yourself no matter where you are in life, you encourage others to do the same. People will see their flaws in you and realize that it’s OKAY to be flawed, that you DO NOT have to have everything figured out, that you DO NOT have to hibernate like a bear waiting for spring. You can be a role model for others without going on American Idol or winning an Olympic medal. You can do that by living your life, quirks and all. Yes, you heard me. You may be someone else’s Demi Lovato, Taylor Swift, or Emma Watson. You just might not know it yet.

I’m not saying for you to blast Shake it Off and let criticism roll off you like water; you can do that if that’s your thing, but I think there’s still a lot to be learned from criticism. The important thing is not to let it get to you, because your haters will ultimately make you better. They will help you grow.

Take in what you want to take in, improve what you can, and keep living your best life.

And for those who just don’t give you the time of day?

Shake ‘em off.

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What I’ve Read Recently: The Pursuit of Happiness (REVIEW)

Miscellaneous Musings

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We are naturally drawn to the idea of quests; from ancient legends to the latest underdog flick to hit our screens, we naturally gravitate toward a “hero’s journey” model.

In Chris Guillebeau’s latest book, The Happiness of Pursuit, he shares the stories of many of his readers’ personal quests, including his own, in which he visited all of the countries in the world (all 193 of them) by age 35.

When we think of the “hero’s journey” model (a la Star Wars and Harry Potter), we think of these large, sweeping, epic quests. But The Happiness of Pursuit shows you that your quest (should you have one) doesn’t have to be made of stuff that constitutes a sweeping epic.

Having read all of Chris’s books, I can say that this was by far my favorite of the 3 that he’s written. When I first found his website, I pored over his journey. Being a travel junkie, I loved the idea of what he was doing. The book was a great insight into his journey: the things that went on behind the scenes. But I think I gravitated toward it the most because of the idea that having this quest gave him purpose. Sure, visiting all 193 countries was not the sole purpose of his life, but there was something there that resonated with me.

The journey gave him a(n unusual) routine. It gave him structure. While I loved his first book, The Art of Nonconformity, I didn’t take to it as quickly as I thought I might. Some of the language he used in the book put me off a little bit; he made it sound almost as if you didn’t need to go to the conventional route (i.e.: go to grad school, etc.) if you didn’t want to. While I appreciate the message, some of the language made it sound almost as if it was better not to. It didn’t seem to account for those of us in the grey area (at least in my view).

In a recent radio interview, Chris talked about how his second book, The $100 Startup was meant to show people that there are seemingly ordinary people who found financial freedom through unusual means, that such options are open to everyone. Again, great message, but to me, it sounded as if he was focusing a little too much on the entrepreneurial aspect of financial freedom. For those of us (like yours truly) who aren’t sure whether or not they want to be an entrepreneur, this book wasn’t my favorite.

But this one was. For those of you who did not follow his blog as he traipsed across all 193 countries, you may find the book a bit haphazard; by no means does Chris tell his entire story in chronological order. But his story is one that merely supplements the content and helps to emphasize certain points. The wide variety of people he spoke to and the diversity of the quests they undertook inspired me, and I hope it will inspire you. What I appreciated most about this book is perhaps the fact that the language of the book didn’t come across as very black and white. Maybe it’s the much more personal nature of the book, but I found this book far more relatable.

As someone who has attended Chris’s main event, the World Domination Summit, for the past 2 years, I’ve often heard stories of attendees’ quests and personal projects, and taken back plenty of inspiration. You don’t need a life list (although those could help). But for a chronic wanderlust-er like me, a quest holds a certain allure. Reading about the various quests of Chris’s readers rekindled my wanderlust, and inspired me to develop a quest of my own. What that will be, I can’t say, but I’m eager to find out.

For those of you who are restless, who are searching for purpose, or are just chronic wanderlusters, this book is for you.

Any other Chris Guillebeau fans out there? What do you think of his work?

Why I’m Okay With Filtering My Life Despite My Honesty

Culture & Society, Miscellaneous Musings

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Yes, any traditional therapist would say that it’s not healthy to bottle up your feelings, that you should just spit them out (and yes, before you point out the delicate irony, I see it).

 

Knowing that employers look at your social media activity has made me vigilant about what I post online. I’d rather not run the risk of not being hired because of something I could have easily removed.

 

In that sense, I’m okay with filtering, despite my honesty policy.

 

Yes, you read that right. Here’s why I’m okay with it.

 

 

Not Everything Has to Be Immortalized On The Internet

 

In the words of Christopher Hudspeth:

 

Not every little thing your brain spews out needs to be photographed, video recorded, or written into 140 characters or less statements, and shared with the potentially permanent, inerasable abyss.”

 

This is exactly why I end up discarding half of my blog post list ideas from my Evernote file. There’s enough in society about me, me, me, and how social media is making us stupid. How would you, my lovely readers, benefit from reading about how I waited for a hour in a doctor’s office only to have him look at me for less than ten minutes?

 

You get the idea.

 

I try my best to make the personal stuff stay in the Moleskine. If I still have something to say about it once I’m through my venting/sorting through my feelings stage, that’s when I put it here.

The same goes for celebrity culture. We live in a world where we feel like we have the right to know everything about a public figure. Who they’re dating, what their workouts are, what they like, what they don’t like.

 

Sure, all of us love a good story, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn in the sand somewhere. I feel uncomfortable seeing the headlines. What people choose to do in their lives is their business, public figure or not. If they don’t want to talk about it, they won’t, if they do want to talk about it, they will. And we should respect that. They’re not obligated to tell us about their lives, just as I’m not obligated to tell you about mine.

 

Face-to-Face Interactions Are So Much Better

 

We’ve all seen “Look Up,” that viral spoken word piece on YouTube, haven’t we? When you’re interacting someone one on one, there’s so much more depth to the conversation. You hear the inflections in their voices, pick up on social cues…the list goes on and on. Little things like that can change the nature of a conversation.

Sometimes we can share a little too much information on the Internet; sometimes we’re not even conscious of it. But face-to-face interactions force you to filter out things depending on the circumstances. You have to be able to take responsibility for what you say. Once you share something with the Internet, you can’t take it back.

Okay, you can’t take words back after you say them, but over time, people may forget what you said. What we remember is how we feel.

I would rather feel better going with my gut and filtering a little if I feel like I want to or have to rather than spilling my guts and trying to clean up afterwards, wouldn’t you?

 

How do you feel about filtering your emotions? How do you deal with your feelings about it?

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The Truth Behind Depression & Suicide: My Thoughts On Robin Williams’ Passing

Culture & Society, Miscellaneous Musings, Re-framing Your Thinking

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I am not a numbers person. Contrary to my stereotype, I was horrible at math. But consider this:

 

With numbers like these, you would think that depression would have been more widely accepted as a real disease. Sure, people are talking about it a lot more (which is great), but how long will that discussion last?

Will people take Robin Williams’ passing as the final kick in the pants and continue the discussion after his unfortunate suicide fades from headlines? Or will we forget about it and go back to our merry lives until another celebrity lends their voice to the issue or passes away?

The choice is yours.

I know where I stand because I’ve been on the verge of ending my life before. I’m still battling the demons of depression.

The hardest part was not the swallowing of the pills. It was not sitting for hours on a therapist’s sticky leather couch. It was not suppressing the urge to cut every time the medicine hit my system.

The hardest part was staying.

Staying alive for my friends and family.

Staying alive and hearing things like “It will get better,” even though life kept giving me reasons to throw the towel in.

Sometimes letting go is easier than staying.

 

I know that I didn’t believe that my life could get better. All I saw was the reality in front of me. And that reality was that my life wasn’t fun.

You could argue that suicide only benefits one person and leaves so many hurt people in the wake of tragedy. But I know that when I was thinking about dying, I wasn’t thinking about how selfish I was. I was not thinking that suicide would be a free pass. I was thinking about how I would no longer be a burden to my family and friends.

You could call Robin Williams selfish, but I’d be willing to bet that he held on for as long as he did because of his loved ones.

 

My friends are the only reason I’ve held on for this long.

 

Robin Williams was the one who said that we are all given “a little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.”

What will you do with your one spark of madness?

 

(A Small Portion Of) Blogs That Inspire Me

Miscellaneous Musings

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Sometimes we all need a little inspiration; some of us can go to conferences and surround ourselves with people who just get us, but not everyone has that luxury. Sometimes inspiration comes from the smallest things.

Quotes.

People.

Pets.

Blogs.

Since I started this blog, I’ve been lucky enough to find some great blogs that I consistently turn to for inspiration. If I listed every single blog that inspires me, you lovely readers would be here for days. But here are a few that I think are definitely worth mentioning.

Liv Light

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Liv Light is a personal self-help blog run by Alivia Hall. I’ve never had the pleasure of meeting her, but I love her writing! I stumbled across her blog when I saw her guest post for Tiny Buddha, and I’ve been following it ever since.

What I absolutely love about Alivia’s blog is that she uses personal experiences to talk about the lessons she’s learned in life. Every post is a wonderful reminder of the important things for us to remember, and the stories make her blog so much more unique.

So before you open your mouth and start to argue that every blogger uses their personal experiences to make their blog unique, I’m going to say that yes, it’s true. But Alivia’s blog has a special place in my heart because it was one of the first blogs I found that resonated with me while talking about so many difficult things in life, things people tend to gloss over.

Sometimes her blog posts come along at just the right time. I look at my News Feed in Facebook and see the words NEW POST from her, and sometimes I see a post dealing with the exact problem I’m facing.

Like how to accept my body. Or how to stop letting other people influence your thoughts. Or how to handle negative feelings.

She’s refreshingly honest and candid, something I respect in any person, not just a fellow blogger.

As a fellow dog lover, it also doesn’t hurt that her puppy is one of the cutest dogs I have ever seen. And yes, that includes my puppy.

Because let’s be real, who doesn’t like puppies?

Strong Inside Out

 

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Valorie Curry has called the author of Strong Inside Out, Amy Clover, an “expletive-spewing Care-Bear.”

Having had the pleasure of meeting her (and making it through her workouts), I can say that Amy is definitely that.

I came away from her workouts cursing her in my head and dripping enough sweat to make a mini pool. And she loved it.

She uses fitness as a tool for recovering from depression and writes about it every step of the way. Her posts are practical and thought provoking. I mean, who else but Amy would connect driving on the freeway with seizing our dreams?

 

As You Evolve

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You know those times when you just don’t get a concept? You’ve had people explain it to you a billion times, but it still isn’t clicking? At some point someone will come along and explain it to you a certain way, and it will just click.

Kristen was that someone for me.

She was able to explain so many things to me in a way that I just understood it. She had a way of sensing where I was, relating to it and breaking the concept down in ways that somehow resonated with me.

Watching her evolve on her journey of self-improvement as an entrepreneur has been great for me. Not because I have any plans of switching to entrepreneurship anytime soon, but because I love her perspective on things. Her perspective might not be for everyone, but it was my cup of tea.

Who knows? Maybe it will be yours too.

This Flooded Sky

 

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I stumbled across Marielle’s blog when Camila nominated me for a Liebster Award, and I’ve been hooked ever since. I love that her blog is a mixed bag; she writes about travel and racism, plastic surgery, gender socialization and feminism. Before you ask, no, I did not start following her blog just because she is a fellow Asian-American blogger.

It’s refreshing to read so many blogs and get the perspectives of so many different people all over the world.

What are YOUR favorite blogs? I’d love to read some of them! Let me know in the comments below!

A Liebster Award!

Miscellaneous Musings

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Every once in a while, little things come along that make your day. Those little things where you can’t decide whether you want to a) cry happy tears or b) wonder how in the world this ended up in your lap.

I had a Sally Field moment.

No, this thing was not an around-the-world plane ticket. (Hey, a girl can dream can’t she?)

It was a nomination for a blogging award.

Now why would that make me excited you ask?

I love it when people support up and coming artists/blogs or give money to a cause where you know your money will be used to help others. Hence the excitement.

As far as I can tell, this award is that equivalent for bloggers.

I admit it. I spent a good 2 minutes blinking at the tweet, thinking I was dreaming. Camila from The Things I Am Crazy For nominated me; to say that I was flattered and touched is an understatement. Thanks Camila!

So in the spirit of passing the good vibes, I’m going to answer her questions on the blog. It feels a little strange to be doing a different post, but I’m excited about it at the same time. A little diversity never hurt anyone right?

  1. What made you want to start blogging? (It’s a classic!)

The blog started as a way for me to keep track of how I changed as I started doing a lot of internal work in order to become someone who I was happy to be. Since I started blogging at the end of last year, the blog has become less of a magnifying glass into my life as I try to find a way that readers can benefit from the experience rather than just focusing on me.

  1. Do you have any hidden talents?

Nope. None that I know of.

  1. What are you looking forward to the most in the coming month?

I’m really looking forward to going back to the city of my alma mater for a conference in order to network with some like-minded people next month. I went to this conference for the first time last year, and it was a life-changing experience for me. I’m excited to see what comes out of the connections I make and the people I meet.

  1. Regardless of time, money, commitment, what would be the best present someone could give you?

If someone could give me international plane tickets to various international destinations (or a job that would allow me to travel and be paid to blog about my experiences), I’d be a very happy girl. I love the idea of using money to buy experiences instead of material things. Material things can break, fads come and go, but memories last a lifetime.

  1. What is your favorite book?

Oof. This is a hard one. I absolutely love The Perks of Being a Wallflower and White Oleander. I know the question asked for one, but those 2 are some of my absolute favorites. I can’t decide which one I like better between the two.

  1. What is your guilty pleasure?

British television shows. Sherlock, anyone?

  1. If you could meet with someone who has passed, who would it be?

Hands down my high school mentor who passed away from leukemia when I was 18. I miss his infectiously positive energy. I would love to see him again. If we’re talking celebrity, Maya Angelou.

  1. What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

Meditate. Or try to. It’s hard to concentrate sometimes.

  1. Do you have a goal/project you are currently working on?

There are so many! I think the biggest goal I’m working toward is getting a job and turning said job in to something I like. In terms of projects, this blog is my baby. I love working on it.

10. What is the wisest advise anyone has given you?

There are so many people in my life who have offered me great advice; not to discredit anyone or say that I’m ungrateful for their advice, but I think the best thing someone said to me was the following:

 

“If you love your story, it’s because it’s a fact of your life, not a factor.”

 

Talk about perspective.

 

Now that I think about it, that doesn’t really count as advice, but it’s the only thing I can think of off the top of my head.

 

The lovely ladies I’m nominating are:

Jess @ The Fevered Pen

Amy @ Far From Paradise

Genevive @ That Fine Madness

Ayla @ Mrs Ayla’s Adventures

Ashley @ Positively Wanderlust

 

My questions for you all:

 

1) What’s the one country that you wish you could go to right now and why?

2) What’s the ONE thing you hope people can learn from your life?

3) What’s your favorite book?

4) What’s your favorite charitable organization and why?

5) What’s your current favorite song?

6) Favorite sources of inspiration for blog posts?

7) If you had the power to rid the world of ONE thing, what would it be and why?

8) Knowing what you know now, what’s the one thing you wish you had known growing up?

 

 

 

{Movie Review} The Secret

Culture & Society, Miscellaneous Musings, Re-framing Your Thinking

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I first heard of the Law of Attraction more than 6 months ago. I had just graduated college and found myself trying to recover after being let go from my first full-time position.

 

Now what?

 

When my coach first explained the Law of Attraction to me, I wasn’t willing to buy into it.

 

I’ll be honest; watching the movie for the first time made me angry. At least initially.

 

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So I you’re saying attracted bullying, depression, car accidents and multiple surgeries into my life?  Sure, I’m willing to buy that. How much again?

 

And yes, creating the life you want for yourself sounds pretty good to me.

 

I don’t have a classic story success story.

 

But I do know that this film, along with The Science of Getting Rich made question my thought process.

 

I am a natural skeptic. Sometimes I go back to that place of negativity. But changing my thought process sounded like a really good idea when I realized that I had one of two choices.

 

I could:

 

a)    Think: “Oh my god, this is so not fair. Why me?” and sound like a spoiled brat and attract everything that I didn’t want into my life.

 

OR:

 

b)   Think: “I don’t know why I chose this option, but I know that this experience will allow me to grow and I’ll learn to love myself more in the long run. I’m grateful for this experience because of this. It will help me grow.

 

I don’t know about you, but the second option sounds (and feels) a lot better to me.

 

This documentary was the catalyst for that change.

 

The experts in the documentary share their experiences with the Law of Attraction and offer us viewers their biggest tips so that WE can apply the Law of Attraction to OUR lives.

 

I don’t know about you, but flipping through the catalog of possibilities that the universe has to offer and placing my order sounds pretty fun, even for someone who’s (figuratively) allergic to malls.

 

For those of you interested, you can check out the documentary on YouTube, Hulu and Netflix!

 

Image Credit: Pinterest.

 

Are there any other documentaries you’ve watched that have helped you on your journey of personal transformation? I’d love to hear about them in the comments below!

{Book Review} The Science of Getting Rich

Culture & Society, Miscellaneous Musings, Re-framing Your Thinking

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What do YOU think of the advertising language used in the self-help world?

“Find your purpose and learn to embrace your inner beauty in three months!”

“Embrace miracles and live the life you were BORN to live.”

You know the drill.

Sometimes the programs don’t deliver what you’re looking for. You could say that it’s a case of high expectations, but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s frustrating.

You spend hundreds (maybe thousands) of hard-earned money, invest time in said programs, and sometimes you come out of the program a couple hundred dollars poorer with minimal gain.

I don’t mean to disrespect those who devote their lives to these programs. They work for some; they have helped thousands of people.

Louise Hay, Dr. Wayne Dyer, the list goes on. And on. And on.

But the reality is that not everyone can afford to spend hundreds of dollars on these programs, and there’s no guarantee that they will work for you.

My experiences on my own journey has prompted me to  talk about books and other resources that I have found helpful (or not so helpful as the case may be).

Yes, it’s more than likely that you will have heard of (or read, or seen) some of these resources already. I’m not trying to force my opinion on you. I’m simply trying to offer you the resources that I have found useful should you need or want them.

I hope that these resources can make you into the person you want to be without you having to withdraw a 3 (or 4)-figure sum from your checking account.

So let’s start things off, shall we?

 

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The Science of Getting Rich (Walter D. Wallace)

Wait, hold on. There’s a science to getting rich?

Or at least, that was my thought, when a friend first suggested this book to me. I flipped the book over and read a quote on the back. It said something like, “The most valuable book you will ever own.”

Or something like that.

When I read that line, I thought, “Oh great. Not again.” All this book needed was a landing page, and more glowing recommendations from professionally photographed people on a website.

Right?

Wrong.

If you’re looking for a short read to get your feet wet, this is it. It’s less than 200 pages.

But Wallace packs a lot into those pages.

This isn’t to say that once you read this book, your dream will come knocking on your door with open arms, but it helps a lot just knowing that your thoughts about your goal are not just your head getting lost in the clouds if you focus on your goal and set an intention.

He says:

“The thought of an oak tree does not cause the instant formation of a full-grown tree, but it does start in motion the forces which will produce the tree, along established lines of growth.”

So, in your case, the thought of your dream career (or life partner or car, or whatever you’re trying to bring into your life) doesn’t ensure that the thing will arrive wrapped in a giant bow on your doorstep, but it let’s the universe know you want it, and the universe rearranges itself so that you CAN have it.

The best part is that he tells you how to do it.

Not in a follow-the-recipie-checklist kind of way. Because, let’s face it. As awesome as this book is, it was written in the 1900s. I had to read the book twice because it wasn’t the language I was used to reading. Diction aside, the guy tells you how to make you dreams come true (cough, visualization and gratitude, cough) and why you need to do what he tells you (i.e.: why visualization is so powerful).

Pretty powerful, eh?

 

And if you go to the Law of Attraction website, it can be downloaded for free in PDF form. Who doesn’t like free stuff?

Are there any books YOU’VE read on your personal journey that you’ve found particularly helpful? Are there any resources you’d like to see here?

Feel free to suggest potential names for the series! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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